富察皇后：「永璉是我懷胎十月，痛了一天一夜才辛苦生下的，失去他何止傷心，我是痛不欲生，他是我人生中最重要的人，我最愛的孩子，我願意用我的命去換他的命，你們沒有經歷過這種痛苦，沒有資格指責我！」
哀傷五個階段 The Five Stages of Grief - Kubler-Ross Model, Swiss
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否認 Denial: 我是不相信！老天爺在跟我開玩笑吧？這不是真的，一定是搞錯了吧？
Denial is the stage that can initially help you survive the loss. You might think life makes no sense, has no meaning, and is too overwhelming. You start to deny the news and, in effect, go numb.
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憤怒 Anger: 這太不公平了，世界上根本沒有公平正義。
Once you start to live in ‘actual’ reality again and not in ‘preferable’ reality, anger might start to set in. This is a common stage to think “why me?” and “life’s not fair!”
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討價還價 Bargaining: 早知如此，何必當初。
When something bad happens, have you ever caught yourself making a deal with God? “Please God, if you heal my husband, I will strive to be the best wife I can ever be – and never complain again.”
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沮喪 Depression: 我活著有什麼意思？我好累、我沒辦法、提不起勁、人生已經失去意義。
Depression is a commonly accepted form of grief. In fact, most people associate depression immediately with grief – as it is a “present” emotion.
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接受 Acceptance: 把握我們還有的時間，去完成未竟的夢想。
Not in the sense that “it’s okay my husband died” rather, “my husband died, but I’m going to be okay.” In this stage, your emotions may begin to stabilize. You re-enter reality.
The Five Stages of Grief - Kubler-Ross Model, Swiss
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